Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.Sample Book Insights: #1 People become frustratingly complicated when they doubt the legitimacy of their desires, which is often the case when they are afraid of how an audience might respond if their true intentions were to be known.#2 We can untangle ourselves from our evasiveness and inadvertent slyness by noticing and growing curious about the origins of our behavior. We can recognize that our complicated behavior doesn’t please people, and that they would rather face frustration head on than be sold a fine tale.#3 The most powerful instinct we have when we meet someone we’re attracted to is to try to please them, and we naturally assume that the best way to do this is to signal strongly just how much we agree with their views and choices on all matters great and small.#4 We must be honest with ourselves when we are trying to seduce others. We must know that we are not perfect, but we are not wholly abject or shameful. We must have the courage to share and accommodate the actual complexities of human nature.