Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.Sample Book Insights: #1 Marlene and Mark’s story is common. They once enjoyed the closeness they felt with each other, but now that they are older, that feeling has gone away. It is easy for couples to slip into this pattern, because the different vulnerabilities that so greatly influence the way men and women interact with each other are virtually invisible.#2 The differences between male and female vulnerabilities are biological and present from birth. Baby girls are more sensitive to isolation and lack of contact, which explains why they are more easily frightened and anxious.#3 Male babies are more sensitive to arousal than female babies, and this helps them defend themselves against predators. However, this also means that they are more susceptible to discomfort caused by overstimulation.#4 Hyperarousal is a male tendency to be constantly on guard against shame. When you're embarrassed, you want to crawl into a hole, and a child feeling shame wants to cover his face because he can't bear to look at you.