Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.Sample Book Insights: #1 The loss of a relationship, particularly if it was romantic in nature, is often considered a failure. We assume that a relationship that ends for any reason other than one or both people dying is a failure.#2 The root of the word shame is to cover, and it is characterized by the need to hide from the eyes of the world. It is especially common in situations where we feel social inadequacy.#3 According to Ruth Benedict, the difference between shame and guilt is that with shame, we feel bad about our defects and mistakes, whereas with guilt, we feel bad about our own core values.#4 When we don’t meet our expectations, our brains receive a dopamine hit, which makes us feel good. But when our expectations are not met, our stress levels skyrocket, and our brains shift into a threat state.